老祖宗云:冰冻三尺,非一日之寒。
老祖宗又云:一个巴掌拍不响。
内部的种种矛盾导致家庭最后解体,往往都不是突然而至的。
我的童年几乎是在父母无休止的争吵中度过的,“离婚”之类的话,听了没有一万遍也有八千遍,那时的我,从来没有想过几十年后,我的父母几乎活成了他们同龄人里的模范夫妻。
父母之间关系的转变,并不是他们其中的某一方顿悟,主动向对方靠拢的结果,而是他们在儿女都成家立业后,积极地相向而行的结果。
不少夫妻曲终人散,往往就是不懂得在走上感情的绝路前及时止损,相向而行,如果及早懂得这些,我想应该有一大部分夫妻能够迎来柳暗花明。
不要用“无法改变”来过早下结论,在我看来,自我的改变往往“非不能也,实不为也”。
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