送给所有不够自信的人：14个小改变，让你更自信！

罗曼·罗兰说过“先相信自己，别人才会相信你。”

自信是一种微妙复杂的东西。它可以影响我们的思维、表达、行为方式等方方面面。自信的人行动更为果敢，办事效率更高，更有可能实现目标。

如何才能让自己成为一个自信爆棚的人呢？

1

Fail More Often

承受更多失败

The more challenges you take on, the more failures you'll have, but learning that you can recover, get up and push forward builds confidence.

挑战越多，失败就越多。但是，你要相信自己很快能从中恢复过来，并将此作为你建立信心的助推器。

2

Track your accomplishments

记录你的成就

Keep a list of successes, big and small. It'll help you to see your abilities in a more positive (and realistic) light.

记录你的每一次成功，无论大小。这会让你用一种更积极（或者说更现实）的眼光来审视自己的能力。

3

Don't compare

不要和别人比较

Stop measuring yourself against others. What you see isn' always real. Making comparisons is a damaging and an inaccurate measure of success anyway.

不要拿自己和别人比较。眼见不一定为实。无论如何，跟别人比较是对成功的一种破坏性和错误性的衡量。

4

Dress for confidence

人靠衣装

How we dress affects both how we feel about ourselves and the way others perceive us. Expensive clothes aren't necessary. Put emphasis on good fit, good condition, and appropriateness. Don't be afraid of some color; black is professional, but color gets noticed.

穿着不仅影响一个人的心情，同样会影响别人对我们的看法。但这并不是说要“穿金戴银”，重点是注意搭配，衣服质地要精良，要适合个人的气质。还有就是不要回避某些颜色；黑色确实能让人看起来更职业一些，但鲜艳的颜色也会吸引更多的目光。

5

Work on your posture

良好的姿态

People with lower confidence often tend to have poor posture. Stand up, sit up, and keep your head up. It's an instant confidence booster.

不自信的人往往体态也不太好。要做到站有站相，坐有坐相，时刻保持昂首挺胸的姿态。这样会让你的自信心瞬间爆棚。

6

Learn

学习

The more knowledge you acquire, the more confident you will be. Knowledge is power, and the more powerful you feel, the higher your confidence will be.

学习的越多，人会越自信。知识就是力量，知识越充实，人就越容易感到自信。

7

Fitness

健身

Better physical condition and appearance gives you more body confidence, and as a bonus, the extra endorphins give you an added energy boost.

良好的身体状况和外表会带给你更多自信。另外，健身过程中产生的内啡肽会让你更加精力充沛。

8

Start a conversation

主动开口

When you find yourself in a social situation, instead of gravitating to those people you're comfortable with, start a conversation with someone you don't know very well. Eventually getting to know new people will become easier.

无论在哪种社交场合中，记住不要总是只跟那些让你感觉舒服的人在一起，要主动尝试去和自己不是很熟悉的人交谈。这样，你会更容易结交新朋友。

9

Have miniature goals

制定小目标

Bite sized goals are easier and quicker to achieve and the momentum can give you a boost when attacking bigger goals.

小目标实现起来相对更容易也更快，并且能推动你实现更大的目标。

10

Raise your hand

毛遂自荐

Volunteer to take on tasks or projects that are a stretch for you. You'll learn you can do more than you thought you could and so will others.

积极主动地承担起能够拓展你的能力的工作，一旦着手你就会发现自己比想象中更加能干，任何人都一样。

11

Be around confident people

和自信的人交往

Cultivate relationships with 'can- do' people; attitude is contagious. On the other hand, avoid 'can t do' people. It works both ways.

多和自信的人交往，因为态度是有感染力的；另一方面，也要尽量避开不自信的人。这两种方式都会产生相应的影响。

12

Be your own friend

跟自己做朋友

When you hear that voice in your head, abusing, attacking and belittling you, remind yourself that a friend wouldn't talk to you in that manner.

当你听到自己的内心有声音在诽谤你、攻击你、贬低你的时候，要坚定地告诉自己真正的朋友是不会如此的。

13

Rely on your instincts

相信直觉

When you trust your intuition, and listen to those gut feelings, you'll become more confident in the knowledge that you do know what's right for you.

当你做到相信并且遵从你的直觉，你会变得更加自信，也更清楚什么才是适合自己的。

14

Keep practicing

不断实践

Practice the skills you need to succeed. The more you practice, the more confident you become. This is true of every type of skill.

反复练习能助你成功的技能。实践得越多就越自信，这对任何一种技能来说都适用。

一个自信的人，懂得并乐于欣赏和肯定自己的能力，心态会更积极上进；同时，自信还能让你吸引更多志同道合的人，从而提高社交圈的品质，获得更多成功。

李白大大也说过，“天生我材必有用”，我们有什么理由不做一个自信心爆棚的人呢？

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