Cedric谈他的老师与母亲 #EachforEqual 【In English and Chinese 英中双语】
#EachforEqual Cedric talks about his teachers and his mother
#每个人的平等
#EachforEqual
Cedric的等号手势
Cedric's hands-out equal pose
I enjoyed all of your articles.
I guess if I wrote mine, it would be:
I grew up in a privileged society where I went to an all boys school, my sister to an all girls school until we merged.
Therefore we had no bias, in someways the opposite we put the opposite sex on a pedestal, we were all given good educations and treated equally.
My primary school headmistress was an amazingly strong wielding woman, and many of my female teachers, I respected all of them without prejudice , in fact I often thought the women were better, they cared more and strived for more, wanted to teach more.
But luckily my classes were small enough this could always be done 1on1.
But the past of my mother; I know this to be a very different story, my mum had a company of 16 people and has been very traditionally successful, but not as successful as my father.
She dosen’t need to work now, but her upbringing has made her who she is, she still works hard.
Like me at school she had Dyslexia, but unlike how my teachers and family helped me more to move past this 'learning difficulty’ her teachers told her she was stupid.
Dyslexia was not known or cared about.
She often had to fight against the wave and when her parents first met my father they told her she was wasting her time as an attractive women from a good background to be with my father.
She chose, and my father ended up being very successful, but I now feel as if she can’t escape his successful shadow, she keeps trying to prove her worth, I just want her to be happy.
There was a story on bbc radio 4 gardening hour; an older listener described how they could not get their prized roses to flower.
She gave the rose the best spot in the garden, watered it as required, fertiliser when needed, they removed weeds and kept the ground perfect.
After discussing in depth the conditions with the presenter; he said: wow I’ve only heard of this a couple of times.... but I think you may be giving your rose too much of a good environment.
Planting sometimes needs grit to fight against to blossom.
And so I propose my worry that we put on a pedestal all these great women, they are these amazing strong figures who have fought in this particularly bias harsh ground around them to succeed, but their happiness is just as important as their success, I just don’t want that to be overlooked.
(英译中是谷歌和我做的 Translated by Google and Hermione）
我很喜欢你们的所有文章。
我想如果我写我的话会是：
我很幸运成长于一个特别受到优待的社会中，我上了一所全男生学校，我的妹妹进入了一所全女生学校，后来我们两所学校合并了。
因此，我们没有偏见，在某种程度上，我们把异性放在了相互支持的平等位置上，我们都是受过良好教育的人，受到平等对待。
我的小学女校长是个令人惊叹的雷厉风行的女性，我还有许多女老师，都很值得没有偏见的尊重，事实上，我常常认为她们更好，她们更关心人，更努力，也想要教更多。
幸运的是，我的班级很小，很多时候（教学都能）以一对一的方式完成。
但是我母亲的过去；我知道这是一个截然不同的故事，我母亲的公司有16个人，并且一直都很成功，尽管不如我父亲那么成功。
她现在不需要为谋生而工作了，但是她的成长使她成为了目前的她，她仍然在做着做自己喜欢的事情。
像我在学校一样，她患有诵读困难症，但与我的老师和家人知道如何帮助我克服这种“学习困难”不同，她的老师告诉她她很愚蠢。
在当时，诵读困难尚不为人所知或关心。
她常常不得不与流言蜚语斗争，当她的父母第一次见到我父亲时，他们告诉她，她是在浪费自己的时间，因为她有良好的背景，无法与父亲在一起。
她还是选择了父亲，父亲最终取得了很大的成功，尽管现在我感到她好像有点无法摆脱他的成功阴影，母亲她一直不断在努力证明自己的价值，我只是想让她开心。
英国广播公司第4电台的园艺小时有一个故事：
一位年长的听众描述了自己家花园无法让珍贵的玫瑰开花。
她把玫瑰种在花园里最好的地方，根据需要浇水，需要时施肥，他们家人勤恳除草，并保持地面完美。
与主持人深入讨论植物生长的条件后；主持人说：哇，我听说过几次了。。。但是我想您可能会给玫瑰花太多的好环境。
种植有时需要用砂砾对抗才会开花。
因此，我提出了我的担忧，那就是我们要把所有这些伟大的女性都当作是偶像来看待，她们的坚强如此惊人，她们在她们周围这种偏颇的偏见中努力奋斗，最终得以成功，但是她们的幸福与她们的成功一样重要，我只是不想这点被忽视。
陶理看完这段的感受：
Hermione's feelings:
我不知道每个读者读完这些会有什么感受，至少我感到有更多的能量和启发，想要了解更多人。
I am not sure about how every reader feels after reading this, at least I feel empowered and inspired, would like to know more about human beings.
不只是因为她们的角色是我们的老师，是我们的母亲，也是因为她们身上美好的品质，就像了解植物的整个成长过程一样，不是只看到绽放，也看到成长过程中的风吹雨打。
Not just because their roles as our teachers, as our mothers, and also because of the beautiful characters in them, like knowing the whole growing process of plants, not just appreciating the full bloom, but also knowing how the plant survives in the strong wind and heavy rain.
我也特别同意Cedric对待母亲的态度，不只是把她看作值得尊重的人，也希望她过得开心。
I also cannot agree more with Cedric's attitudes toward his mother, not just considering her as someone he respects, also hope her to be happy.
母亲这个词在几乎所有文化中都有被美化甚至神化的倾向。
Mother is a term being beautified and even deified in almost all cultures.
这样做其实某种程度上会是在绑架女性，让她要承担母亲养育孩子的职责，却忘了她也是一个人，也可以有自己的欢愉，也忘了孩子的家长不止一个，还有母亲的伴侣。
Doing this will 'kidnapp' the woman to some extent, letting her to be responsible in parenting her children, but forgetting the fact that she is also a human who can have her own pleasure, and also a child usually has more than one parent, there is someone called mother's partner.