萨古鲁：如何保护你的孩子免受社交媒体的负面影响
Social media is not all bad, but the negatives cannot be overlooked. Social media addiction, FOMO (fear of missing out), online bullying, a distorted self-image – these are just a few of the challenges that children today face with the increasing use of this technology. So, what can we do to protect children and ourselves from the potential pitfalls of social media? Sadhguru recently touched on this topic during a Youth and Truth online event at the Indian School of Business (ISB) Leadership Summit. With millions of followers across his social media platforms, here are Sadhguru’s two practical tips on the matter.
社交媒体并不全是坏事，但其负面影响不容忽视。社交媒体成瘾、FOMO（害怕错过）、网络欺凌、扭曲的自我形象——随着这项技术使用的增多，这些只是今天孩子们所面临挑战的一小部分。那么，我们能做些什么来保护孩子和我们自己，避免落入社交媒体的潜在陷阱呢？萨古鲁最近在印度商学院（ISB）领导力峰会的青年与真理线上活动中谈到了这个话题。萨古鲁的社交媒体平台有数百万人关注，以下是他关于这个问题的两个实用建议。
Questioner: I have a one-and-a-half-year-old son and a teenage brother. I have seen how the social media craze is affecting my teenage brother, and I was wondering, what can I do as a parent to ensure that my child’s self-esteem is not affected by social media?
提问者：我有一个一岁半的儿子和一个十几岁的弟弟。我看到了社交媒体狂热是如何影响着我十几岁的弟弟的，我想知道，作为父母，我该做什么来确保孩子的自尊不会受到社交媒体的影响？
Social Media, Thumbs Up or Thumbs Down?
社交媒体，点赞或者点踩？
Sadhguru: If you want your son to grow up without social media, when he is six years of age, you must send him to me [referring to Isha Home School and Isha Samskriti]. I am bringing up many children who have a different sense of life and a great enthusiasm for life without being involved in these kinds of things. But anyway, social media need not be all negative – it is a tremendous technology with great reach. If we conduct it well, social media can be a tremendous possibility. I myself am on social media all the time, but I have no issues with it, because whatever content is put there, I never see what people are commenting.
Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：如果你想让你的儿子在没有社交媒体的环境中长大，当他六岁的时侯，你必须把他送到我这里（指Isha家庭学校和Isha Samskriti学校）。我培养很多孩子，他们没有陷入这种事情，却对生活有着不同的感觉，对生活有着极大热情。但无论如何，社交媒体并不全是负面的——这是一项影响广泛的巨大技术。如果我们应用得当，社交媒体可以成为一个巨大的可能性。我本人就一直在社交媒体上，但对社交媒体没有任何问题，因为不管我上面放了什么内容，我从来不看人们的评论。
I say what I see as true, no matter what the consequence is, or whether someone approves or disapproves of it. Because this is the position that I have taken; bringing light to everything is more important long-term than pleasing everyone. It may not be appreciated right now; it may be appreciated after five, ten, or a hundred years. Most human beings who are of a certain profoundness were only accepted long after their death. Now, because of social media, there is a certain level of acceptance while you are still living. Otherwise, by the time people had read your books and gotten it, usually you were dead and gone. That is how the world has been till now. So social media per se is not an evil force. It depends on how and for what purpose we use it.
我所说的都是我认为正确的东西，不管结果如何，也不管别人赞同还是反对。因为这就是我的立场；从长远来看，给一切带来光明比取悦每一个人更重要。也许人们现在不理解；但五年、十年或者一百年以后就明白了。大多数有一定深度的人是在死后很久才被接受。如今，由于社交媒体的存在，当你还活着的时候，人们对你会有一定的接受度。否则，当人们读了你的书并且领悟的时候，你通常已经死了或者离开了，那就是世界之前的样子。所以社交媒体本身并不是一股邪恶的力量。取决于我们使用它的目的以及如何使用它。
Tip #1: Be Your Child’s Superstar
贴士1：成为孩子的超级明星
Your child being influenced by social media is probably because that is the most exciting thing that is happening to him right now. One thing is to make yourself so exciting that he would rather be with you than stare at the phone. People ask me, “Sadhguru, how can I make my child look up to me?” I say, you must become a superstar in his mind. You must do whatever you have to do. If he thinks a dancing person is a superstar, you must dance. If he thinks a singing person is a superstar, you must sing. Whatever he thinks is super, you must do that. This is a very important responsibility that you have. When you bring a human being into the world, it is much more than just a reproductive activity. For other creatures, parents just have to deliver and provide food in the initial stages. A donkey becomes a donkey, a horse becomes a horse, a tiger becomes a tiger, irrespective of their upbringing. But a human being comes unformed in many ways. That is the beauty of a human being: we can consciously make this being in a certain way. Only a few parameters are fixed by birth; the rest is all open to nurture and influence. Because of this, giving birth to a human being is a much bigger responsibility.
你的孩子受到社交媒体的影响，可能是因为这是目前发生在他身上最令人兴奋的事情。你要让自己令人兴奋到他宁愿与你待在一起而不是盯着手机。有人问我，“萨古鲁，我怎么才能让我的孩子敬仰我？”我说，你必须成为他心目中的超级明星。你得竭尽所能。如果他认为跳舞的人是超级明星，你就应该跳舞。如果他认为唱歌的人是超级明星，你就应该唱歌。无论他认为什么是超级的，你就应该去做。这是你非常重要的责任。当你把一个人带到这个世界，它远不止是繁殖活动。对别的生物来说，父母只需在最初阶段提供食物。驴变成驴，马变成马，老虎变成老虎，不管他们的教养如何。但是一个刚来到世上的人，在很多方面都是未定型的。这就是人类之美：我们可以有意识地塑造一个人。人在出生时，只有少数几个特性是固定的；其余的都是可以培养和影响的。因此，生育一个人有着着更大的责任。
Tip #2: Engage Your Child with Life
贴士2：让你的孩子接触生命
Another simple thing that you can do is to engage the child – even at one-and-a-half years of age – as much as possible with the natural elements. Instead of taking children to the cinema or shopping mall or turning on the television, take them for a walk in the forest. If there is no forest around, if you are living in a city – get him a grasshopper as a pet to start with; maybe he will graduate to a cobra one day. But he needs to engage with life, which he can only do by responding to life.
另一件你可以做的简单事情就是让孩子——即便只有一岁半，也尽可能多地接触自然元素。带孩子到森林里走一走，而不是把他们带到影院或购物中心，或者让他们看电视。如果你周边没有森林，如果你住在都市，先给他一只蚱蜢当宠物，也许有一天他毕业了，眼镜蛇会变成他的宠物。但他需要接触生命，这只能通过回应生命来实现。
You need not go to Africa to see wildlife. On a Sunday morning, go outside your city, to an open place with natural vegetation. If you just walk there with open eyes, you will see an incredible amount of life, and your child will naturally be interested in everything there – whether it is a bug, a grasshopper, or an earthworm. You must get them involved with life. That is the healthiest association you can make, because children are life. They always thrive best with involvement and engagement with life.
你不必去非洲看野生动物。星期天上午，走出你的城市，到一个有自然植被的空旷地。如果你就睁眼在那儿走，你便会看到大量的生命，你的孩子自然地会对那里的一切感兴趣——无论是虫子、蚱蜢，还是蚯蚓。你必须让他们接触生命。这是你可以建立的最健康的联系，因为孩子就是生命。通过参与和接触生命，他们最能茁壮成长。
Right now, is the engagement in human society not life? No, what most human beings have become is just thoughts, emotions, prejudices, ideas, philosophies, ideologies, and belief systems. Social media is full of that. Children must engage with life. Once there is a certain contact and involvement with life, nothing else entertains them as much as engagement with life. Once that happens to someone at an early age, they will not get addicted to anything. They will always be open to life. This is something that you have to do. If you cannot do it, you must send them to me.
现在，接触人类社会难道不是接触生命吗？不是，因为大多数人变成了念头、情绪、偏见、想法、意识形态、哲学和信仰系统。社交媒体充斥着这些。孩子们必须接触生命。一旦对生活有一定程度的接触与融入，没有什么会比参与生活更让人开心了。一旦一个人在很小的时候就接触生命，他们就不会对任何东西上瘾。他们会始终对生活敞开。这是你必须做的事。如果你做不到，那你必须把他们送到我这里来。
现在，接触人类社会难道不是接触生命吗？不是，因为大多数人变成了念头、情绪、偏见、想法、意识形态、哲学和信仰系统。社交媒体充斥着这些。孩子们必须接触生命。一旦对生活有一定程度的接触与融入，没有什么会比参与生活更让人开心了。一旦一个人在很小的时候就接触生命，他们就不会对任何东西上瘾。他们会始终对生活敞开。这是你必须做的事。如果你做不到，那你必须把他们送到我这里来。
原文链接：
isha.sadhguru.org/global/en/wisdom/article/sync-with-everything