福利贴|Be a good friend to yourself

Sunday

Are you a good friend to yourself?

你是自己的好朋友吗?

When you take the growth course to overcome some difficulties in life, your teacher will probably ask you to love yourself at first. Someone may feel confused about how to do it. Here is one simple standard: “Are you a good friend to yourself?”

当你的生活遇到困境，你去上成长课程的时候，你的老师很有可能会邀请你先爱自己，很多朋友困惑，我怎么做才是爱自己，有个简单的标准， “你是自己的好朋友吗? ”

Please refresh your memories, when you failed an exam, were you downhearted or full of energy to tell yourself you are the best and just keep trying? When you broke up with someone, were you upset or did you decide never to fall in love again, or just gave a warm embrace to yourself and comforted yourself like a good friend did? When you have a lot of work to do, will you try your best to work hard, or have a big feast and relax yourself a little bit?

请你回忆日常的生活中，当你考试失利，你是会说“我太笨了”，还是像好朋友一样告诉自己“没关系，我相信你，继续努力”；当你失恋，你是会说“都怪我乱发脾气，我再也不会恋爱了”，还是像好朋友一样给自己一个安慰的拥抱，说“亲爱的，你失恋了，你很难过，这不是你的错，照顾好自己，我在陪着你，而且你会好起来的”？当你有很多工作要做，你是带着疲惫拼命工作，还是像好朋友一样请自己吃营养的食物，让自己小憩一会儿？

Dear friend, will you feed yourself when you are hungry? Are you being good to yourself? Sometimes we hope that there is someone who can help us, but if not, can you take care of yourself? If the answer is no, I think you are a bad friend to yourself. How about learning to be good to yourself, you will get better later.

亲爱的，你会在感觉到饿时喂饱自己，感觉难过时安慰自己，感觉无助时陪伴自己，感觉动摇时支持自己吗？有时我们会期待别人来照顾自己，当期待落空就失望难过或生气指责，如果别人没有照顾你，你可以自己照顾自己吗？如果答案是否定的，我想你真的是自己的坏朋友，你要不要试着做自己的好朋友呢？当你做自己的好朋友时，你就在爱自己。

Here announce the good news: This year is the 100th anniversary of the birth of Ms. Satir. In order to show my respect and love for her, I will give one hour’s free consultation to two persons of Enreading each week from now on. You can contact me from the internet, leave a message to me, or you can just come to me if you are in Zhengzhou.

下面公布一个好消息：今年是萨提亚女士诞辰100周年，为了表达我对萨提亚女士的崇敬和热爱！从本周起开放每周两位英语共读的书友，每人1小时的免费咨询，为确保咨询效果，可以面谈的郑州朋友最优，不在郑州的亲们可以网络咨询。如果你愿意，也可以将自己的困惑留言，我会选取一些在后期的文章中解答。

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从今天起，做自己的好朋友吧！

From now on, be a good friend to yourself!

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☞ 作者：陈泳静，心理咨询师，萨提亚模式治疗师，EFT治疗师，师从安娜玛丽罗博士学习萨提亚转化式系统治疗师专业国际认证课程，师从宝拉贺伦博士学习EFT情绪释放技术，累计专业受训及个人成长600多个小时。